What not to say to or think about single people

                     So in my years of being single I've heard a lot of people who mean well say a lot of hurtful or stupid things. If they don't say it, they think it. Just because we are single doesn't mean there is something wrong with us. Nor is there something wrong with the people we're dating. We don't want your pity and we don't want to feel like we're burden. I asked two my friends to tell me if I'm a burden to them.

                   I once overheard a lady talking to her husband about one of her female single friends. She was saying how she felt bad for her single friends, how the single friend was always alone at night but had dates with guys or lunch dates with friends. She was talking about singleness like it was a sickness or a curse. I'd rather be single and miserable than married and miserable.

               I know I dated stinkers, but that doesn't make EVERYBODY I date a stinker. Not all guys are pigs, I just seem to pick a lot of pigs. So if I tell someone about someone who I'm dating the LAST thing I want to hear is "so what's wrong with him?" even if you say it jokingly it still hurts. Also if you say "keep your eyes open with this one" it's still like saying there's something wrong with them. If there is something wrong with the person someone you love is dating then tell them what the problem is specifically.

            When someone asks "oh are you dating anyone?" And I say no I'm working on some stuff they say "oh you will find someone." NO! I'm good! I could go on and on about what not to say to a single person but there's tons of youtube videos on that. Basically if you watch the video "stuff people say to single people" or "stuff Christians say to singles" that's the list of what not to say to us.

             So what do you say or think? If you receive a "he dumped me" text go to her and just let her literally cry on your shoulder. Let him vent and cuss. And when they say "what do I do?" give them your advice. All I wanted after my last break up was someone to sit in my bed with me and say "he was ugly...... and stupid...... but he'll get his one day and I hope we're there when it happens." And when your friend grabs your hand after a break up and says "I love you" say it back or say "I know" and give her hand a tight squeeze.