How the church fails with teaching about sex in the sex crazed world

                When I was 16 I pledged my virginity to God and my future husband. That's all well and good but what happens when you're almost the 30 year old virgin? I think the church doesn't prepare us for that, they prepare us for being the 21 year old virgin but never 28 and still a virgin. What I think we should do is encourage the women who waited to take on at least one young woman to encourage her to wait and tell her how it's done. If there's no young women who are married and waited then that's a sign of the times.


                    The church likes to pretend that you will never want to do the deed or get bullied to do so. They like to think that you will never want to do it until marriage. What happens when you can't wait till you say I do?

Prayers

                   I am praying right now about the possibility of discontinuing my ministry and just helping other ministries. I like the ideas I was getting for the ministry

Making people happy

                   As Christians it's not our jobs to make others happy but it should be a byproduct of our good works and love. Recently I told the guy I'm dating that I wanted to learn how to fish and that made him happy not because he wanted me to be like him but because he wants to share something he loves with me. I knew it would make him happy and it would bring us closer. How much bonding will happen on that boat during those trips?

              In my ministry I aim to make the girls feel happy and loved. They may have depression or feel numb so this may make them feel loved and happy. I know they make me happy and I hope to do this for a while.

People think I'm crazy

                   A lot of women think of strippers as trashy or whatever but I think they're precious. I remember one time I went in and there was a girl that was coming off the floors and I asked "Hey sweetie, did you get one of these?" The young lady squeals "SWEETIE!!!!" and hugs me. These girls want hugs and acceptance. I love these girls so much and I get so much out of it. They need for some one to care about them, no judgment. They need more women to say or show "I care about you, you're precious." So this is my call to action for women

Dancing for the devil

               In the book "dancing for the devil" Anny Donewald tells her story about how she went from stripping to helping the girls that work in the clubs. She had a few stories about the problems facing the girls and also the problems facing the ministries like mine. With the girls there's drugs and safety concerns like robberies. With the ministries a lot of people think it's not very christian like to go into the clubs. If this is God's will He will protect us. I learned a lot about the industry through anny. I also learned how to love the girls. So please read "dancing for the devil" by Anny Donewald

Bible studies

             I've been praying about bibles studies and I think I will start it in Gwinnett with singles and then allow the girls from the clubs, if they want to come. If you are interested in coming please let me know in the comments

guys and my ministry

             I recently had a discussion with a guy about the role of men and my ministry. He was saying that men should be let in because Jesus lead his disciples (12 men) into similar situations. Honestly I understand his stand but where he is wrong is that no one is Jesus except Jesus. I'm not strong enough to lead men into a sexually charged atmosphere. I know it's not my job to protect men but it is my job to protect my ministry.


             So why aren't men allowed in? I have a few reasons and here are most of them that I can think of off the top of my head.

1. It's a sexually charged place with naked or half naked ladies. That reason speaks for itself.
2. It could lead to lustful thoughts. I don't want to be responsible for that.
3. Lots of the girls may not trust men. Lots of the girls were abused by men.
4. It looks suspect. Who's going to believe that a man is going into a strip club for ministry.
5. It's a conviction I have for this point of my ministry.
6. Men should minister to men and women should minister to women. Only women know the struggles of other women.

       

     I may think of others later but those are the best ones. I may use men to help in other capacities in the ministry. I may also allow men to make their own team and go minister male dancers. Leave your thoughts in comments.

Christians hate

                  The definition of hate is intense feelings of dislike. As Christians we are always taught to love and not to judge, this lesson is lost on some people. I feel like some people are so judgmental and hateful. When I tell people about this ministry they say that it's sinful to surround myself with that industry. If God truly called me to do this he will protect me from anything evil. They also think that God couldn't possibly love the industry. Well why in the world did Jesus go through what he went through on the cross just for select people. They also said that God couldn't love those in the industry because their life is so dark, well we were all in darkness so your argument is invalid


              I did a study on this and if you want proof just read romans or John. Don't hate. Christians are supposed to be little Christs and Christ wouldn't hate.