Rape and the church

     Why is there so much sexploitation an rape/molestation/ sexual assault. There's two things that come in to play here: how we are taught to treat each other and our culture. We have such a casual view on sex. The church needs to step up and teach people (especially men) what is ok. The church just glazes over sex. We don't counsel people, nor does church elder and staff make themselves available in case a young person feels like they may do something or a young person becomes a victim.

     The church also needs to set aside their own ideas and views on sexual stuff and dating. It's biblical to date but men need to respect women and vise versa.

Video: what not to say to a sexual assault survivor

https://youtu.be/ySgTgJOqlgE

My hope

     I hope that my church helps me. I hope that all they see is me and what I want to do with the ministry. What else matters right? I'm back on track with God and I believe that I'm doing this ministry for  the right reasons.

Be kind with your words

        Your tongue and mouth is the most powerful part of you believe it or not. When you open your mouth to speak to or about someone it can ruin them. If you speak about them to other people and it's bad, negative or untrue, it can ruin their reputation or what that person thinks of them. If you speak to someone and it's negative or mean it may ruin their self esteem. Words hurt people. I think we all were on the receiving end of not so nice or untrue words said about us either  to or behind our backs (I know I have) and yet we continue to hurt each other and it amazes me that we do so.  I think we need to challenge ourselves to do something about this.

So here's the challenge:
Before you speak ask yourself this:

1. is it true?
2. is it helpful?
3. is it hurtful?
4. can it be taken out of context?
5. would you want it to be said about you or a loved one?

Feeling unfit

     I remember in one blog writing about how I felt unfit to run this blog and ministry. I decided that I will no longer let myself feel that way. I will spend time with God and make sure my boyfriend does the same and I will push aside all of the horrible decisions I've made out of my head and move forward. I put out messages to Christian friends about what I should write about when I hit a road block so if they come up with anything I will post it. Here's to a new me

My hiatus

     I had taken a break for a while and for that I have kind of a generic overly predictable made for pureflix story to explain what has been going on. I made a few not so great choices about how to live my life and I don't know if that is a blessing or a curse. I also don't know if I will pay for those choices now or later. I think I already started to pay for them. I know not every hard time is a curse or a punishment from god but sometimes it seems like when you do something you're not supposed to something bad or that knock you on your butt comes along. I had one such happening recently in December, the loss of my car but now I'm focused and know what I have to do

Why sexual assault

      As some may know I changed my ministry from the adult entertainment industry to sexual assault and rape. You may wonder why. It's simple the issue of sex has always been a taboo topic in the church and sexual assault keeps happening on college and church campuses or they involve college students or church goers.  My goal is to love those who are victims or survivors while educating the public about the issues surrounding rape and sexual assault. A lot of victims/survivors don't fell like they are heard or they feel like people don't believe them. I'm here, I hear you, I believe you. We may not change the world but we may change the world of one person and that's all I want.

My life's journey

        I recently went down a weird path and it wasn't good or bad just weird. I hope to use what I went through to run this blog. I'm sorry for the hiatus but I just didn't feel fit to run this blog. Maybe I'll write about maybe I won't, I'm still debating it. I have a new purpose for this blog and my ministry. I want to educate people especially young women about sexually abuse and assault. The facts and numbers don't lie and they're the scary reality of this world we live in. We live in a country and world will rape and sexual assault or abuse is "normal" and the athletes who commit these crimes on college campuses can do no wrong. On the documentary the hunting ground everyone thought the star football player wouldn't do anything wrong and whoever said anything to the contrary was a jealous stupid liar. It's sad what we believe when athletes or the schools' reputations are involved. Don't blame rape culture, blame ourselves for not educating everyone to end it.

What can I do for my single friends?

                 Sometimes married people forget how lonely single people are.  We're not burdens and don't want to feel as though we are. We also don't want to be pitied. So what can a married or engaged person do for a single person?

1. Check in
2. If they are hurting be their shoulders to cry on
3. Get them out of the house 
4. Love them
5. Pray for them and their future spouse
6. Ask what would bless them 
7. Do something sweet for them 
8. Remember that even if they don't say it they may have a lot of hurt in their hearts

Why people love this pope

            Ok so I'm not catholic but I use to be. I however don't believe that you have to be that you have to be catholic to like this pope. The reason why so many people like him is that he's humble. He's also socially relevant, he brings the church to the modern times, he realizes that things are different. But he still loves all

Words can hurt

                 We have to realize what impact our words can have on others. I know my big mouth can get me in a lot of trouble, a lot of you can probably relate! I once posted on youTube that I was once told that I was too fat to date someone and this guy replied saying that my last name (Kimball) fit me because I was round and a big fat fatty, I will skip the rest of his comment because it was just that mean. Our words can hurt others who are already hurting. Choose your words wisely

HIV and STIs/STDs, the church and the industry

            There are 15 new cases of STIs or STDs a week in the porn industry even though they test every week. One in 2 sexually active youth will get a STI or STD before the age of 25. Those are scary stats and I think the church should care! Why we don't care I don't know! I guess the church likes to believe that everyone waits until marriage but I know lots of people who didn't wait. One of them could easily have contracted something. Over 1 million people are infected every year! We need to get our heads out of the sand and promote safe sex and testing. Instead of promoting just waiting we should say "you should try to wait but if not then you should be safe!"